‘Success’ With or without Love?
Yesterday, Pankaj came to me and asked, ‘’Maharaj Ji what is true love?’’ I became curious about his questions because he is only 21 years old. At this stage, people often get confused between true love and infatuation. I asked him the reason for his query and his reply inspired me to share with you all my views on love, career and happiness.
Pankaj said, that he thinks that he is in love with a girl and wants to marry her but he is getting a job outside country. If he takes that job then he can’t marry her and if he marries her then he will lose the promising opportunity. What shall he do?
This is not only the dilemma of Pankaj but most of our youth face this dilemma. They are confused that what is more important love or career? I say to all of them, both are equally important, both aspects are incomplete without the other. There is time for everything; you can’t build your career at the age of 50, though some exceptions are always present. Similarly, you also can’t enjoy your life without love because true love gives you the companionship and a true friend, who will always stand by you in all your success and failure. A person is successful in the true sense if only he is surrounded by his loved ones. Build your career at right time, attain success and plan your future but among all these don’t forget to show your affection to your love and family members. I told Pankaj, go pursue your career but if you truly love the girl then get engaged with her before going. You are young, the girl can wait and when you become settled within a year then marry her.
But again, today’s life is very hectic, jobs are very demanding and time taking. To all the people who are busy in their life, I would suggest that no matter how busy you are, how tensed you become at your workplace, learn to leave your work tension there itself. Don’t come home with your work tension. Your family is important. They wait for you the whole day long. Spend time with them. I told Pankaj, that when you marry that girl then maybe you will leave home at 7 a.m. and return at 10 p.m. but whenever you come back give at least one hour to your wife. Remember that she manages your home for you. She wants to be heard, listen to her problems patiently, they may sound trivial to you but they are very important to her, and if she asks for suggestions do your best with care.
Never copy others, you don’t know what are the circumstances that person is in. It may be that the concerned person has his wife in hospital and he needs to work very hard to pay the bills, that may be the reason, he is working like a maniac. So, why to see others and then change yourself? Every life is unique and so is its motive. Set your goals, think, analyze and then choose your preferences.
If you will spend more time with your family then maybe you may not have many friends but whatever friends you will have will be your real friends. Don’t forget that your career is your bread and butter and you cannot eat love but without love, your career is also meaningless. Both are interlinked, put each in separate compartments and with both of them, each step will lead to success. Nothing is easy but if there is determination then nothing is impossible. Just repeat after me, “I can have a balance between my love life and career” and see what miracle happens.
